Black Women Desperately Want To Be Bought

Black Women in America are extremely confused. Don’t let the topic of ice cream and coffee first dates be brought up. 🤦‍♀️ All of hell breaks loose. Because somehow Black Women in America are under the impression that if they meet up with a man to have a frappe or two scoops of Rocky Road some how that man’s character is in question. All because he didn’t spend $200 on 4-Star restaurant cuisine. Some black women behave as if they grew up on caviar, quail eggs and Grey Poupon. Quit it sis, you weren’t silver spooned. Most of the world wasn’t. Whether that man spends $3 or $300 on you it won’t determine how good or bad the relationship will go. It won’t tell you how it will end. Any time a woman tries to tell any of this y’all result to calling her a pick me. Simply because YOU haven’t got it figured out. She does.

Black Women in America have “broke b*tch logic” and I personally don’t know where it came from. I’m 43. When I was growing up there was such thing as two parent households in the black community and both parents were working diligently to take care of their children. Black Women weren’t even considering being housewives unless they were from the south. Most of the women from the north, from my observation, went to college, got decent jobs and helped with the household. They had no issue with it either. What happened? Why are so many women online complaining about how poorly they were treated by men? Women want a man’s money as if that’s some consolation prize for him breaking her heart when he does. If she even was emotionally attached to him. Has the internet become the place for the lost and turned out people who have terrible relationships with their parents??

I believe that these married women I grew up around understood one thing….MEN. Last time I checked men were human beings. Men get tired of working. Men get sick. Men miss their wives and children. Men do not want to be sole providers. Patriarchy indoctrinates them. Forcing a belief on them that money and power is all that they are worth. They are usually overworked and have terrible relationships with the family that they created. Ultimately because they were never home to spend quality time and build solid relationships with their children. They spent too much time away, working.

In a healthy partnership where both partners contribute financially and share domestic responsibilities, the benefits are plentiful. They both enjoy well-deserved rest, quality time with their children, and the opportunity to contribute to family building through their combined incomes. It’s a win-win scenario that promotes balance and harmony within the family unit.

Patriarchy, that old-school system, isn’t doing any favors for any of us. It’s like a double-edged sword – it limits women’s opportunities, reinforces stereotypes, and perpetuates inequality. But guess what? It’s not doing guys any favors either. It squeezes them into this “manly man” mold, stifles their emotions, and ties their self-worth to money. It’s a lose-lose situation. We’re all stuck dealing with mental health issues, toxic behaviors, and unfulfilled lives.

 

Black Women often preach about what other cultures do or what other women receive from their race of man that we don’t. What’s with all the comparisons? The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Black Women in America need to water their own grass. Has it ever occurred to Black Women that it isn’t that you deserve what other races of women get. It’s probably that you don’t appreciate what your race of men have.

Black Women are sick of living in poverty. I get that. Black Women are sick of doing it alone. We’ve done that long enough. But does it have to be one extreme to another? To where now if a man isn’t ULTRA RICH, you’d rather be alone. Being financially stable doesn’t necessarily mean being ultra-rich. Financial stability means having enough income and resources to cover your essential needs and expenses, save for the future, and weather unexpected financial setbacks without significant hardship. It’s about managing your finances wisely, living within your means, and having a financial safety net. While being ultra-rich certainly implies financial stability, most people can achieve financial stability without reaching that level of wealth. It’s more about achieving a balance between your income and expenses, managing debt responsibly, and building savings over time.

Patriarchy teaches women that men should be the primary breadwinners, while women’s economic contributions are undervalued. This can result in unequal access to education, employment opportunities, and financial resources for women. Patriarchy also perpetuates norms that discourage women from taking leadership roles in finance and business. If more women knew more about finance and business they’d understand what financial stability truly is. They’d learn that it has very little to do with the aesthetic of being wealthy.

Let’s be clear, not all cultures stick to patriarchy. Historically, both men and women have played vital roles in supporting their families. Some royal families were even led by matriarchs. It’s important not to assume that everyone, except in African American culture, sees men as the primary providers. My Asian neighbors, for example, are both well-educated and successful, sharing responsibilities at home. And it’s plenty of other Asians in my predominantly Asian city in Northern California that have that same arrangement. In a partnership, it’s about two individuals defining their roles in their household, regardless of societal expectations about gender roles.

In China, Ghana & India there are plenty of tribes that have a matrilineal kinship system, and property and family lineage are passed through the female members. Women play a central role in their society, with family identity and inheritance passing through the mother’s line. Women often have significant influence in family and community matters.

Black Women in America are losing sight of what it means to be a family. In Black families, there should be a powerful ethos of teamwork. It’s all about everyone pitching in to ensure the family’s well-being, and it’s clear that relying solely on the man’s income doesn’t cut it in today’s U.S. economy. This approach values everyone’s contributions – financially, emotionally, and intellectually. It means women pursuing their careers and passions, and everyone having a stake in nurturing and supporting each other.

In a world where individualism often takes the spotlight, it’s refreshing to see how different cultures emphasize the beauty of collective success. Take Asian cultures, for instance; they’re all about teamwork and shared achievement. Families stick together, generations live under one roof, and it’s not just about one person’s glory—it’s about lifting the whole crew.

Indigenous communities worldwide rock this approach too. They’re all about sharing resources and knowledge within their tribe, because it’s not just about personal gain—it’s about the well-being of the whole community and the earth they call home.

Now, in Africa, there’s this cool philosophy called “Ubuntu.” It means “I am because we are.” It’s like the ultimate reminder that we’re all connected, and success isn’t just about what you achieve individually—it’s about what we achieve together.

And in Scandinavia, they’ve got this epic Nordic model. It’s all about chipping in together through taxes to make sure everyone has access to healthcare, education, and social services. It’s like a collective safety net that ensures everyone’s well-being.

 

All I hear out of the mouths of Black American Women is ME, MINE, HIS. Never OURS. There is always a BLACK WOMEN VS BLACK MEN undertone anytime I hear a Black Woman in America talk about MEN in general. Understand the distinction. I’m not talking about broke Dusties all women should avoid. I’m talking about GOOD MEN with decent character that Black Women still speak about as if Black Men collectively are beneath us.

Hypergamy….that’s when someone’s all about leveling up in their relationship game. It’s like aiming for a partner who’s got social cred, big bucks, or tons of education. It’s often linked with gals trying to find someone who can boost their status or financial situation.

Now, on the flip side, we got prostitution, which is like, straight-up trading sexual favors for cash or stuff. It’s all about the dollars. Men and women do this, and it’s usually driven by the need for some cold hard cash.

So, yeah, while they’re both about relationships and exchanges, hypergamy is about moving up the social ladder, and prostitution is all about the moolah for sexual services. Big diff, right? NOT REALLY.

The conflation of hypergamy and prostitution among some Black Women is a concern. In this troubling trend, individuals prioritize relationships with higher-status partners primarily for financial gain, blurring the lines between love and transactional motives. This phenomenon is alarming as it commodifies relationships, reducing them to economic exchanges rather than genuine emotional connections. It not only perpetuates harmful stereotypes but also erodes the foundation of healthy, equal partnerships. Black Women must address this issue by promoting relationships based on mutual respect, shared values, and emotional intimacy, rather than reinforcing a transactional approach that undermines the essence of genuine companionship. The question still remains. Should Black Women have a bride price? For what? If they aren’t bringing nothing but issues and an attitude to a man? That’s the typical stereotype and plenty of women perpetuate that stereotype every day on social media and in entertainment. Even “female slut rap” degrades and disrespects men the same way “gangsta rap” disrespect women. That’s all the world listens to us do….disrespect each other. The funny thing is a lot of women consider “female slut rap” equivalent to female empowerment.

There is a very good reason why women fought so hard to throw gender roles out.

Black Women in America forget that the women before them were miserable. They had to rely on men for everything. Apparently that wasn’t working out to well.

The age-old system where dudes ruled the scene, didn’t just pop up overnight. It’s been around for ages and has roots in how societies evolved over time. But let’s talk about why women have been all about smashing the patriarchy and striving for gender equality:

1. No More Unfairness: Women have been dealing with some serious inequality issues. Like, seriously limited access to education, jobs, and political involvement. That’s just not cool, and it’s been the driving force behind the push for gender equality.
2. Bossing Up: Women want to be in charge of their own lives, financially and otherwise. They’re all about leveling the playing field and getting equal access to resources, job opportunities, and a say in what goes down in society.
3. Legal Justice: Think about gaining the right to vote, own property, and make choices about their own bodies. These are big wins in the battle against traditional gender norms and restrictions.
4. Movements That Matter: Women have been part of some epic movements, like the suffrage movement and the feminist wave. They’ve used these movements to make some noise, raise awareness, and push for change.
5. Changing the Game: Society is evolving, and so are cultural norms. Women and their allies have been shaking things up and challenging the old-school gender roles that used to limit their options and freedom.

Black Women want equality when it benefits them. But when it’s time for men to benefit from said equality these women cringe and cry about gender roles.

Is being a single mom a thing worldwide? Well, it’s like a mixed bag – kinda depends on where you’re at. You see, in some places, it’s pretty common due to a bunch of stuff like breakups, people living together without tying the knot, or just financial reasons that lead women to rock the single mom life.

But in other spots, cultural vibes and religious beliefs might make it less common, and society’s setup might lean more towards traditional family setups.

The likelihood of single motherhood is influenced by a wide range of factors, including socioeconomic status, education, age, and cultural norms, among others. It is not determined by race or ethnicity alone. Single motherhood can be found in all racial and ethnic groups, and making broad generalizations about which race is more likely to produce single mothers is not accurate or helpful.

Keep in mind, that things can change as people’s views shift and policies evolve. Also, being a single mom is different for everyone, with its own set of challenges and opportunities, depending on where you are and what’s going on in your life.

Women hustling and bringing home the bacon have some seriously awesome perks for their fam and relationships. Check it out:

1. Financial Freedom: Having your own cash flow means you’re not relying on bae for everything. You get that sweet feeling of financial freedom and security.
2. Equality Vibes: Earning your own dough breaks those old-school gender roles. It’s all about equal partnerships where responsibilities at home and in life are shared like a boss.
3. Boosted Confidence: Climbing the career ladder and stacking up that cash can do wonders for your self-esteem. You rock that self-confidence, and it’s good vibes all around.
4. Fresh Perspectives: High powered women bring their own unique experiences to the table. Your voice, whether it’s about money or decision-making, adds a fresh and diverse flavor to family life.
5. Role-Model Status: When you’re a working mom, you’re setting an epic example for your kiddos. They see you hustling and learn the importance of hard work and finding that balance.
6. Work-Life Balance: Work hard, play hard, right? Earning your own cash means you can help shape a flexible work-life groove that fits your fam like a glove.

Now, let’s get into co-parenting with your supportive partner:

1. Real Talk: Start with open convo. It’s all about communication. Talk about parenting roles, expectations, and what you both want.
2. Team Parenting: Equal partnership isn’t just for work. Split up those parenting duties fairly, from diapers to school runs. Teamwork makes the dream work!
3. Flex Schedules: Coordinate your work hours so you tag-team parenting like a dynamic duo.
4. Tech Wizardry: Use apps and digital tools to organize your parenting game. Shared calendars, grocery lists – tech’s got your back.
5. Me-Time Matters: Self-care is crucial. Support each other in taking breaks and keeping your mental and physical health in check.

This is not as complicated as Black Women want it to be. It’s just about finding the right man to be in a solid partnership with.

There is a reason why I encourage women to make their own money.

If you give a man the power to feed you, you also willingly give a man the power to starve you. Men are not providers they are maintainers. They are there to help you maintain a lifestyle that you have already began creating for yourself.

 

I can’t help but see a similarity between the old-school vibe of a slave master selling off a slave and a modern scene where a woman’s all about finding a guy who’s making bank and practically auctioning herself to the highest bidder. Black women still want to be bought and sold.

Think of it like this: back in the day when slavery was a thing, it was basically treating people like they were just property, right? Fast forward to today, and you’ve got situations where some women are super into finding a partner based purely on how much money they make. It’s kinda like turning humans into commodities or swiping right for a paycheck.

In both cases, you’re missing out on the whole personal connection and focusing only on dollars and cents. It’s like forgetting that people are more than just their financial status and not giving them a say in the matter.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying these two things are equally bad – slavery was absolutely terrible, no doubt about it. But the comparison here is about how women can sometimes lose sight of the real human aspect when they start valuing others solely based on their bank account.

Drawing a parallel between these two scenarios involves recognizing that both involve the objectification and commodification of individuals, but it’s essential to approach this comparison with sensitivity, given the historical context of slavery and the complexity of modern relationships. In both cases:

1. Objectification: In both scenarios, individuals are being reduced to their economic value. In the historical context of slavery, enslaved individuals were treated as property to be bought and sold, while in the modern context, seeking a partner solely based on their financial status reduces them to their income.
2. Commodification: The act of buying and selling individuals or choosing a partner based on their financial worth turns them into commodities. In slavery, humans were dehumanized and treated as tradeable goods, and in the modern scenario, the focus on wealth can devalue personal qualities and emotional connections.
3. Lack of Agency: Both situations can strip individuals of their autonomy and agency. In slavery, enslaved people had no control over their fate, and in the modern context, someone pursuing a partner primarily for financial gain may disregard personal compatibility and emotional bonds.

 

The importance of women achieving financial independence, separate from their relationships with men, hits close to home for me. My personal story vividly illustrates the profound significance of this independence. When I found myself alone, sick, and pregnant in a hotel room, abandoned by my child’s father, my drive, ambition, and my own source of income became my lifeline out of despair.

In that challenging moment, financial autonomy wasn’t just about earning money; it was about survival, self-determination, and resilience. Without my own income, I could have been trapped in a dire situation with limited options. But because I had cultivated my own source of income, I had the means to provide for myself and my child, despite the abandonment and adversity I faced.

This experience taught me that financial independence empowers women to navigate life’s unexpected twists and turns with confidence. It’s a shield against vulnerability, ensuring that we aren’t left stranded or dependent on the whims of others. My story underscores how this autonomy can be a lifeline, allowing women to stand on their own two feet, especially in challenging times.

Moreover, it sets a powerful example for future generations, showing them the value of self-reliance and determination. It dismantles stereotypes and reinforces the idea that women can achieve economic success and stability independently. My journey serves as a testament to the importance of women being in control of their financial destinies, a vital step towards gender equality and empowerment.